Fall in love with yourself

Understanding love has always been a huge part of my journey. But now I find myself in a position where I finally celebrate and honour my self-worth. And I come to this conclusion: Real love never judges, it accepts unconditionally. It is kind. It is respectful. It is considerate. Yes, we read this everywhere, but why then do we constantly set ourselves up for failure in that department when it comes to the opposite sex?! Or even ourselves, for that matter.

How can we judge another or even feel rejected if they do not know what love actually is. If this is true, then perhaps it stands to reason that they do not have the capacity to love in that manner. They do not know how to provide nourishment and emotional support to another soul, to acknowledge someone else’s feelings and emotions, to feel empathy. It really doesn’t matter how wonderful you are or not, if they are incapable of loving on that level, they will be unable to love another. So ego is not even at question here. Love comes from the soul.

Here’s another interesting angle of mine about unconditional love for a romantic partner. One has to learn to love oneself, unconditionally, in order to give love and receive love in return right? Why? It’s quite simple really. If you love yourself unconditionally, without any judgement, you trust and respect yourself, and know your self-worth and you honour your values. You live in God and God lives in you. You then live in unconditional love for everyone. If you then find yourself meeting someone special, and falling in love, that person can only return that kind of love, on that level, if they honour and respect themselves in the same way.

What I value the most in a romantic relationship is trust, respect, integrity, loyalty. After that comes quality time, affection and emotional support, amongst a few other simple soulful things. If those values are not honoured, my soul does not feel nourished. And my self-worth is high enough, that I only seek to align myself spiritually with people who nourish my soul.

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